I was tapped by one of my boss babes, Lauren Yellock from Illuminate Beauty, to talk about my experience with self-confidence growing up and how I deal with it now. I was very excited to discuss this topic because I know that it’s something that we all dealt with growing up.
Self-confidence is a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment. I think I speak for most when I say that there have been moments when I have not been so confident in myself or my ability to do certain things. When I think back to my childhood and even my teenage years, there were certain areas in which I lacked confidence. For example, I wasn’t able to make any important decisions on my own without getting my mom’s opinion until I was about 25. It could have been something as important as deciding on a job or something as unimportant as how to style my hair. For some reason, I felt that if I didn’t solicit her advice and follow her advice to the “T”, I would be punished by God and there would be bad consequences! I’m laughing out loud as I type this but it is so true. I didn’t trust my ability to make important decisions.
At some point in my late twenties, I think it was around that time that I moved out on my own, I started to become more assertive and self-assured in my decisions. There is something about moving into your own place, have a steady job, and having to pay bills on your own that gives you an extra boost of confidence. You have to be smarter and more analytical when you become a “real” adult. There’s no “letting it slide” or calling your mom.
There was also some confidence issues with my looks growing up too. I didn’t consider myself to be one of the pretty girls or the best dressed. I didn’t come from money and I literally wore sweatsuits (in every color) to school every day of the week while in elementary school. But at the same time, it wasn’t something that I constantly thought about. However, looking back I think it contributed to my awkward social skills. That feeling of being awkward had to do with me feeling like I wasn’t good enough or cool enough to be accepted. I was and still am socially awkward.
Now, as an adult, I don’t really care to be accepted. I love who I am and I love my body. You only get one life and one body. So, I do my best to really appreciate it all. Also, I think becoming a mom really helped with my body confidence. In the beginning I was really upset at how much my body had changed after having my son. But, after recognizing how much my body went through to produce this amazing human being, I felt/feel like I have to show it (my body) all the love. It’s not perfect, but it’s STRONG!!!
The one area that I have always been confident in is my intellect. Growing up, I knew how smart I was. So I was confident in my ability to study, get my homework done, and pass tests ON MY OWN. I was always good at figuring things out. So, school was basically a breeze for me (well, the education part of it). In my current life and at my job, I can always rely on my ability to figure sh*t out!!!
As a blogger, I try to be transparent in the areas that I am confident in, as well as those areas that I’m not so confident. When you’re able to be completely transparent and bare your soul to the world by showing your true self to others, that gives others permission to do the same. It allows you to relate to others as well. And I’m totally here for that.
So, tell me, how did you deal with self-confidence growing up and are you still dealing with those issues? Let me know in the comments below.
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